Why men date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with problems, cause misery, and other troubles. Also you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, money, age dissimilarity, faith education, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating married men.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I am sure typically though it is only the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos people has erected against affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your family or anybody else? You will need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest group, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your savings are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, generally the man is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply grown distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.